Men — we really need to get ourselves some confidence. Results from a recent online survey of 25,594 heterosexual men published in Psychology of Human Sexuality found that nearly 50% of guys aren’t satisfied with their penis size. Yet this same study reported 84% of straight women were satisfied with their partner’s penis, with even 2% wishing their partner had a smaller member. Obviously, there’s a bit of a disconnect. (For inquiring minds, the average penis size is 5.6 inches). So for those who feel they don’t measure up, (which is most of you, apparently), it’s time to utilize the sexual alternatives in this list — all of which are supported by actual research.
Believe it or not, fresh bed sheets was the second largest turn-on for women according to a survey by entertainment brand Mecca; losing weight came first. Unfortunately, another recent study from mattress company Ergoflec found the average single man only washes his sheets just under four times a year, (once every 3.1 months). Which is kind of gross. Do your laundry dude; it could be doing wonders for your sex life.
Hit up the gym, boys! A study by the University of Ottawa found that yes, size matters to some extent, but not nearly as much as whether you were tall and V-shaped (meaning your shoulders and chest are larger than you waist). The study found that overall, body shape accounted for about 80% of the attractiveness scores, the penis size accounted for about 6% and his height was about 5%. Read that again: The thing you have control over accounts for 80% of your attractiveness. The things you don’t account for 11%. So: Hit up the gym, boys!
The best way to get your girl in the mood if she’s particularly stressed is to help her around the house, according to a poll of 700 women by Men’s Health. Seven in 10 ladies said chores were a big turn-on. Most popular being: doing the dishes, cooking dinner, and doing the laundry — in that order. (Something to keep in mind if you happen to feel particularly horny around dinnertime).
According to a recent national survey of more than 3,000 Americans, women who’ve used vibrators or sex toys in the past 30 days reported higher levels of what matters between the sheets — arousal, lubrication, orgasm and sexual satisfaction — and reported lower levels of the bad stuff, such as pain during sex. Beyond that, I personally found that sex toys supported my confidence in bed, and taught me an encyclopedia’s worth of knowledge on the female orgasm. Plus, using toys with her will make her more likely to think of you next time she needs a little somethin’ somethin’ on her own.
Sure, a big wiener is great, but it seems less alluring when you last seconds in the sack. Premature ejaculation is a growing concern for men, (as many as one in three may suffer from PE at some point in their lives). However, there are solutions available to those who need it. Kegel exercises have been reported to help, as well as a brand new over-the-counter spray called Promescent, which I’ve personally tested. Try out both and see if you start turning those 45 seconds into 45 minutes!
A British poll found that 71% of women said any man under 6′ tall “wouldn’t stand a chance” with them. These same women mentioned their perfect man would stand 6′ to 6’6″ tall, adding that anyone shorter “would struggle” to get their attention. Meaning, she won’t even see your penis should you not meet her height requirements. (I don’t mean to pick on the short guys! I’m just the messenger of stats and I’m, for the most part, here to make you feel better).
Aside from making your lady very happy, a study suggests that a little cunnilingus can actually limit the likelihood of your partner cheating. Also, according to an analysis of 33 studies by author Elisabeth Lloyd, only 25% of women are consistently orgasmic during intercourse, (with 52% stopping her man because she was afraid of taking too long). Meaning, for three quarters of women, penis size doesn’t really lend itself to her orgasm. Likewise, a survey of 19,000 from sex researcher, Juliet Ritchers, Ph.D., found more than 90% of women reached orgasm when their partners used oral stimulation, making your tongue a more effective orgasm-generator.
According to the International Academy of Sex Research’s annual meeting in November 2013, women are more likely to orgasm from intercourse while in a relationship than during a hookup, (which I can’t help but correlate to passion and better communication). The study, which included 600 college students, found that women were half as likely to orgasm from oral sex or intercourse during a casual hookup as they were with a partner, with nearly 75% of women in relationships reporting orgasms during intercourse.
Nobody wants a sexual partner with the deadpan enthusiasm of Aubrey Plaza. According to a poll of 3,289 women from Men’s Health, only 7% of sexually satisfied women claim penis size is critical to their pleasure. The other 93% say they can be satisfied in “other ways.” Survey participants were found 10 times more likely to rank both passion and generosity above the size of a guy’s tool.
Arguably the most important factor to better sex is effective communication, which leads you to a better understanding of what she likes, what gets her hot and which erogenous zones affect her most (ears and neck are common). Who knows, she may be into something kinky. But you won’t know unless you talk about it. An internet-based study asked participants to rank seven relationship factors that previous research found to be most important in successful relationships. Those who were found most satisfied in their relationships reported communication as the most important factor, followed by knowledge of a partner and life skills. So whether you’re into dirty talk while you’re doing it or not, you do need to talk about what you’re doing.